Monday, April 5, 2010

30 Day Husband Encouragement Challenge - Day 4

Good morning Ladies! I hope you week has started off wonderfully! Welcome to day 4 of our challenge.

"Let him labor, working with his hands what is good..." Ephesians 4:28b

We are all accountable for the things we say, both negative and positive words. Have you embraced the challenge to speak only positive things to your husband and to others about him? Here's a suggestion that touches the core of your husband's world.

Some women take their husband's career for granted, and they show it in many ways. Do you "dump" on your husband at the end of the workday, or do you strengthen and encourage him with your words? A wise wife will make her husband feel that she values and appreciates his work. Let him know that you are glad he is a hard worker. Take opportunities to praise his diligence and resourcefulness to others.

I've learned that hubby's happiness is directly related to his work performance. If he is having a great month, he is a happy guy. If he is worried about meeting his sales goal - he is stressed, crabby and not so happy. My Daddy gave me wonderful advice when hubby started his sales job almost 2 years ago. He told me to ask about his day each evening. Don't offer advice, but listen and offer encouragement. He said that outside sales is stressful, and full of rejection. After a hard day, it is so important to have positive reinforcement and praise. I've taken this to heart, and I do this each evening, even if we are upset with each other. Usually, by the time we have these little talks about his day, we forget what was such a big deal. In turn, me asking him about his day usually triggers him to ask about mine, which is really nice. We usually have these conversations over dinner, or on the phone on the way home from work. It's nice.

If your husband is out of work, unable to work, or refuses to work, you'll need to be more creative. Praise him for a character quality that you see in him that would be a vital part of a successful career - such as persistence, decisiveness, strength, an analytical mind, organizational skills, good with people, good listener, determination, etc.

1 comment:

Veronika said...

love this post- I think it's important to be as positive as possible towards your partner. I don't think anyone can be positive 100% of the time because we all make mistakes, but consciously thinking about being positive and encouraging is a great start for most people!