We are having the hardest time finding a church home. We even had an argument about it last night. How awful is that? To argue about church? Hmmpphh.
You see, we have been going to the same church for a few years, but we both know it's not our church home. Over the past few months, I have had this inner NEED to find a church home. Hubby and I need a Bible Study. I need other women to worship with. Hubby doesn't really want to go around trying out new churches...so this makes it really hard. He is frustrated too. It seems like each church that we find is either too small, with people that we really don't feel like we have that much in common with, or they are a super church with a full out rock concert before the service. We both grew up in moderately conservative churches, and would like to find something like that now. I don't mind lots of songs, but could you please leave the lights on and turn off the fog machines? I don't mind the casual dress, but could you please encourage the teenage girls to not wear shorts they would not be allowed to wear in school, or ask that men do not wear ball caps?
The church we visited today had a wonderful message, and I enjoyed that part. They served communion without explaining what it was, or praying. They sang a song and said you could come and get it from one of the many stands in the church and say your own prayer. This bothered me. I know there were people there that didn't understand what taking communion meant. The coffee bar, donut stand, smoothie bar, rock concert...I could do without. There were people in work out clothes there. I admire that everyone is welcome. I admire the "come as you are" atmosphere. On Wednesday night church. I cried as we left today, frustrated (and a little hormonal to be honest) and asked hubby, "Where did Sunday go?". All of these church services feel like youth group or Wednesday night church. Could we please sing a hymn? Could we please dress up for God for one morning? Could we please do without coffee for an hour during service? Where is Sunday morning?
Those of you that go to churches like this - if I come across as offensive, I truly apologize. That is not my intent. Is this the type of church you always dreamed of? Do you like this relaxed environment? Is it something that took getting used to?
The programs in these large churches are amazing. Hubby and I are wondering if we have to sacrifice our "Sunday Mornings" for a church home that has everything we are looking for.
Those of you that have found your church homes, if you don't mind sharing - how did you find them? How did you know that church was the one for you?