Play soft music in everyday in your home and Focus on using peaceful words and maintaining peaceful releationships.
I love this! Hubby and I play music in the evenings sometimes while we are cooking dinner. It is so relaxing to come home to music playing, it's a nice way to wash the day away. I'm only home for about 3 hours each evening before we go to bed, so there is not a lot of time for me to really play music, but I'm going to try to do it on the weekends while I clean and stuff at least. It makes chores more fun! I cannot wait until Christmastime, then I have music playing constantly!
I love Courtney's tips for peaceful words. This is something that I work on each day, along with patience :)
1. When you feel tempted to raise your voice, us a child's name in a snarl, furrow your brow into a scowl or speak rapidly in anger...purposely lower your voice to just above a whisper. Focus on gentle words, facial expressions, and touches.
2. Purpose to not let some else's anter make you angry. Do not respond to other's emotions.
3. Yelling at a bud won't make it bloom. Your home will not blossom into a haven if you are not controlling your temper.
My solution for this one is to walk away when I am starting to get mad at hubby. I have the perfect example from last night.
So, I got home around 6:15, because I stopped at the grocery store on the way home. I hadn't been feeling very well that day, and I was so tired from a stressful 10 hour work day. So, when I got home, he immediately said, "I am out of tea and hairspray." What I wanted to say was, "That's nice, do you think you could have told me that before I went to the store, I called you on my way there for that very reason? And, oh, do you KNOW how to get to the store? You have been home for 4 hours watching TV!". But I didn't. Instead, I told him that I was sorry, I didn't realize he was out, and that I would go back to the store. He told me not to worry about it, that he would "make due" for the evening and tomorrow until I made it home (ugh!). And then, to top it all off he said, "You are going to the gym tonight anyway right?" I told him I wasn't going to the gym because I was so tired and had a long day. Then - he laughed at me!! "I knew you would have an excuse not to go". I was MAD. So, I said nothing, put on my gym clothes, went and walked on the treadmill for 30 minutes, worked off some steam, and then I went and bought him his tea and hairspray. By the time I got home it was closer to 8PM, and I was exhausted, but I wasn't mad anymore, just annoyed. He had dinner made and was waiting on me to eat, and had done two loads of laundry. So, I decided not to be annoyed anymore.
Walking away avoided an argument that could have lasted for much longer than a couple of hours, and nothing mean was said. I need to practice this more often :)
4. Continue to pray for peace in your home.
I love this challenge, and I love the idea of our home being our haven away from the world. Visit Courtney's Blog and link up!
I love Courtney's tips for peaceful words. This is something that I work on each day, along with patience :)
1. When you feel tempted to raise your voice, us a child's name in a snarl, furrow your brow into a scowl or speak rapidly in anger...purposely lower your voice to just above a whisper. Focus on gentle words, facial expressions, and touches.
2. Purpose to not let some else's anter make you angry. Do not respond to other's emotions.
3. Yelling at a bud won't make it bloom. Your home will not blossom into a haven if you are not controlling your temper.
My solution for this one is to walk away when I am starting to get mad at hubby. I have the perfect example from last night.
So, I got home around 6:15, because I stopped at the grocery store on the way home. I hadn't been feeling very well that day, and I was so tired from a stressful 10 hour work day. So, when I got home, he immediately said, "I am out of tea and hairspray." What I wanted to say was, "That's nice, do you think you could have told me that before I went to the store, I called you on my way there for that very reason? And, oh, do you KNOW how to get to the store? You have been home for 4 hours watching TV!". But I didn't. Instead, I told him that I was sorry, I didn't realize he was out, and that I would go back to the store. He told me not to worry about it, that he would "make due" for the evening and tomorrow until I made it home (ugh!). And then, to top it all off he said, "You are going to the gym tonight anyway right?" I told him I wasn't going to the gym because I was so tired and had a long day. Then - he laughed at me!! "I knew you would have an excuse not to go". I was MAD. So, I said nothing, put on my gym clothes, went and walked on the treadmill for 30 minutes, worked off some steam, and then I went and bought him his tea and hairspray. By the time I got home it was closer to 8PM, and I was exhausted, but I wasn't mad anymore, just annoyed. He had dinner made and was waiting on me to eat, and had done two loads of laundry. So, I decided not to be annoyed anymore.
Walking away avoided an argument that could have lasted for much longer than a couple of hours, and nothing mean was said. I need to practice this more often :)
4. Continue to pray for peace in your home.
I love this challenge, and I love the idea of our home being our haven away from the world. Visit Courtney's Blog and link up!
1 comment:
Great job Michelle! We are working on the same thing in our house. It is hard sometimes, but I know it's for the better
BTW...I'm going to miss you at the reunion this weekend! :(
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